4 Beliefs You Must Own In Order To Find Success
Hey friends, welcome back to another episode of the She Did It Her Way! Today's blog is all about beliefs you must own to find success. What I'm going to share with you today is a journey into my evolution, with She Did It Her Way. The whole purpose of this blog is to help take you guys behind the scenes and shed light on some of the things that, not only other people are doing, but also what I'm doing in my business and how I am finding success in what works and what doesn't.
Business is very tactical, but the majority of it is our mindset, a lot of it is 80% mindset and 20% mechanics, through that, this past year has been a big growth year, not only for me but also for the business as well.
What Is A Belief?
A belief is a thought that you keep on thinking to the point that you start to believe that it is true. Our beliefs are often shaped by our experiences by people that we surround ourself with, by all the things that we encounter in our life. Beliefs are important because they kind of create this guiding roadmap and this "way of life", and they are extremely powerful. So that's what you want to make sure that when it comes to what it is that you believe, you understand why you believe that. I have discovered four key beliefs that I have fostered and cultivated this year that have really allowed me to own my success, and success isn't a destination, it's the journey in which I show up every single day. Success is also the failures and the growth, the stretching and being anti-fragile, and allowing myself to get up and do it again and again, regardless of how uncomfortable or feels.
“Our thoughts create our emotions, that drive an action that produces a result.” - Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich,
So where you are in your life today, what you see around you in your physical world is a byproduct of the thoughts that you think why you choose to do something is driven by an initial thought that then it causes you to feel a certain way. Think about if you are just so excited and ready to launch your business, to launch a challenge, to write an email or go live on Instagram but right as you're about to do it, you have this thought in the back of your head. And you're really excited and you open up the app, the Instagram app and right before you're about to press play, you knew what you're going to talk about, you have it ready to go.
But right before you press play, that's when those limiting thoughts creep in. That's when the doubt creeps in and depending upon how you manage it at the moment of that thought depending upon your thought it could lead to an action that you may think, "Okay, today, I'm not going to post. No one's going to care." "Who's going to judge me? "Someone's gonna judge me." All those thoughts will lead to a potential action and a result leaving you never post on Instagram.
Now, YOU not ever taking that first step towards building your business. YOU not sending that first email, not reaching out to that potential client that could be an amazing client. Because our thoughts drive our emotions that produce an action that gives us a result.
A belief is a thought that we continue to think over and over until it becomes true for us and we believe that's what it is.
Growing up, one of the famous sayings in my household was that money doesn't grow on trees. And there was a lot of environment around financial scarcity and not having enough and we're not those types of people that have a certain type of status. And that was what I believe to be true, and to then discover that there's an entire other-world of abundance and financial means and that just because you have money doesn't mean that you're a greedy person or that you're a terrible person.
It's quite the opposite when finding evidence for people who are super wealthy and abundant and are amazing human beings that give back.
One way to break a belief is to find evidence for the opposite. So going back to the financial piece of it, I had created a belief that wealthy people were greedy and wealthy people had, like just were so materialistic and didn't care about anything else, because of what I was feeding my mind in my environment. And in order to challenge that belief, I had to then strip away what I was currently experiencing, in finding different experiences that broke that belief.
Beliefs can drive your values. These are four beliefs that I have cultivated this year.
Belief #1: Success is always inevitable.
Success is always happening. Success is in the doing. And because of that belief, regardless of "failures", regardless of maybe not the best day, regardless of a setback. I don't allow myself to live in that setback, or think anything else other than success is inevitable. Because when I believe success is inevitable. And that becomes my truth that I have zero doubt and zero uncertainty that I'll be successful.
And so what I ask of you is, what would it mean if you try it on the belief that your success is inevitable that regardless of the setbacks, regardless of the failures regardless of how many uncomfortable moment your success is inevitable.
What would that mean and what would that do for you?
Belief #2: Failure does not mean, stop.
I know that in the beginning stages of building a business is like riding a bike, or it's like walking. We had to fail so many times, without our training wheels. At the beginning, which most of us probably can't remember, but we either have babies or maybe children around us that we know of, that when they try to understand how to walk, they are falling down left and right. They're ramming into things but that doesn't stop them from getting back up, nor, we as adults telling them they should probably never walk again... No, it's quite the opposite. So, failure doesn't mean, stop. When you are in the beginning stages of building your business, you are learning so many new things and to assume that you are not going to have challenges is extremely naive.
“Failure is part of the process. Failure is data.”
What you make failure means is going to change the outcome of that experience. So I try on the belief that next time you fail it does not mean stop get curious, but it does not mean anything other than, it's part of the process.
Belief #3: People need my work.
Anytime that I have doubted myself on recording a podcast, pushing publish on an Instagram story or writing an email, thinking that I'm going to turn some people away or turn people off, the thought that people need my work, and I'm out here to share this gift with them, has then allowed me the inspiration I need to continue to move forward.
This happens with sales. When it comes to an open cart when it comes to an offer, thinking I'm going to annoy people, that I'm going to turn people off, that may happen. But that's okay, because the people that need to hear the message and the people that need my gift, and the people that need my help, are the ones that I'm going to bring in, and that help that I'm able to provide them far outweighs someone being annoyed, or turned off by me.
And so, always leaning and knowing that there is a group of women and people, hundreds, thousands of people that need my work and that I'm here to share that gift is a belief that keeps me going.
So let's talk about you for a moment. I don't care if you're just starting off. I don't care if you don't have a business. I'm talking life in general right now. You know your gift, and people need your gift, you do something so well that only you can do. That should be enough permission for you to have that belief, to then be able to take action, confidently.
Belief #4: I am exactly where I need to be at this moment on this journey.
I would find myself in a state of thinking I should be further along, or that I should be further along in my business financially, in my email list and podcast downloads and all these things. But what happens when you believe that you should be further along, you're rejecting the present moment. And when you reject something, you can't be in the same state of being grateful for it. If you're not grateful and vibrating at a level of gratefulness, abundance cannot flow in. And so instead of thinking I should be somewhere elsewhere than where I am today. I instead choose to be grateful and trust that I am exactly where I am right in this moment.
Now, that doesn't mean that you do nothing because you're grateful in this moment and everything's going to align on its own. It means trusting that where you are, is where you're supposed to be and continue to stay in a state of gratitude and trust that as things unfold you will then continue to move and be where it is in that moment, you're expected to be and need to be.
So again, try on these four beliefs, see how they fit.
If your success was inevitable, what would that mean? If you choose to believe your success is inevitable. That's your truth.
Failure doesn't mean, stop. How would your entire world change in 14 days, 30 days, six months, now, if you made the decision that failure, doesn't mean stop?
people need my work, and I am out here to share my gift or gifts with the world. With that belief and not thought what action, would you take right now?
If you decided to believe at this moment, and trust that you are exactly where you need to be, how would that make you feel? Would it make you feel lighter? Would it make you feel more inspired?
If this resonated with you even if it was just one belief that really stood out for you. I'd love for you to DM me on Instagram, screenshot and share the belief that stood out most for you that you are going to try on and you were so excited to lean into them.
Until next time, my beautiful friends keep doing it your way!
